Oh no, it's happening -- you're turning into that girl. The one you never thought you'd become, the one who really wants to get engaged and can think of little else...the one who delivers a series of Oscar-worthy monologues about wanting to take the relationship to the next level, the one who tears out Tiffany ads and leaves them around the house, the one who finally agrees with her mother: ""When are we going to get engaged?"" Rest assured, you are not alone. Engagement stories tend to focus on the details of a beautifully orchestrated proposal crafted entirely unprompted by a dream boyfriend. Understandably, the unsavory details of the not-so-subtle hinting, the uncomfortable conversations, and the ultimatums issued six months prior are left out of the official recap. But the fact is, like any good relationship, getting engaged takes work -- soul-bearing, gut-wrenching, and occasionally heartbreaking work. In The Truth Behind the Rock, real-life couples share their experiences in ""he said/she said"" anecdotes that offer a peek behind the curtain at what men and women are really thinking when it comes to engagements. From the subtle art of persuasion (and what to do if it fails) to sifting through the wreckage once he drops the ""I don't really believe in marriage"" bomb after years of dating, author Jessica Kaminsky offers up sisterly advice to guide you through the dreaded ""talk""...again. This candid, reassuring examination of the great engagement debate is essential reading for every serious couple. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be wanted...just be prepared to ask for what you want.